The divine nature of men and women is the most wonderful and complimentary feature I have found on earth. Richard G. Scott has said: “Indeed, a husband and wife are not two identical halves, but a wondrous, divinely determined combination of complementary capacities and characteristics. “ It is Satan who seeks to eliminate that which is most precious in this world: the family. And he seeks to do that by destroying the divine nature of the man and the woman. Satan introduces sophistry into our homes, he tells us that women giving up their divine natures to strive and be like man is simply the way the world is headed and we should get with the times. But the family is the way of God, and as such women are to be the nurturers of that family while the man is the head; and this eternal truth transcends current fads and trends.
When I was fairly young, I had some problems with the young men in my ward. We had grown up together, and as such we had seen each other at our worst and for some reason could not get over the mistakes and faults of the others past. On multiple occasions I complained to my dad how these young men didn’t deserve the priesthood, how they were immature, hurtful and well, pretty dumb. I vowed that I was never going to be married and that I was going to be like my mother who had a successful business career as the CFO of a major company.
As I started down that path I thought I had it all figured out. My first year at college I declared my major as Biology with a minor in Genetics. I looked up internships with the WHO and was planning on dedicating my life helping to cure genetic diseases in Fetuses. All of that changed however when, after my first semester, I went and lived with my sister to be her nanny. My sister is seven years older than me, the oldest child in my family. She had gotten married when I was twelve and didn’t understand the appeal boys held yet. For four years, she tried to have a child and then decided to adopt her first: a boy. Four more years of trying and my sister became a foster parent. To those children I would nanny.
It was one of the most humbling experiences of my life, being around such little spirits who had known such confusion and hurt in their lives. They didn’t have a stable family home, they did not have a mother and father who honored their divine roles; and as such, the children’s personality, and behaviors suffered much because of this. I had gone through similar trials when we had introduced my little brothers into our home. My brothers who suffered from severe aggressive outbursts, to bed wetting, to lying. But here, I was with these children all day long and I had to not only teach them that watching pornography was bad, that swearing was bad, that hitting was bad, that all the behaviors they had seen from the adults in their life was bad; I had to be an example of how a mother should be to them.
By the time I had to leave for college again, a sudden tenderness filled my heart. Those sweet, little spirits had filled me with more joy than all the contemplation about helping this world had. I realized then that by vowing to never be married and start a family I was setting aside my divine nature for a nature that the world would have me want. A nature that was popular, but would never fulfill me the way my divine nature would. Richard G. Scott has said “Be certain, each day, that you are not being led ‘carefully’ from the main track to happiness onto a sidetrack that can, in time, result in the loss of that which is most precious.” I was giving up my divine nature as a mother, as a caretaker, as a nurturer for a career more accepted by the world, a career that the world told me was my new nature. I had seen my mother live a career life, but what I didn’t understand yet was that she was my mother first. Every day of her life, no matter how many hours she worked, how many meetings she attended, how many trips she had to take she was always my mother first. Always taking care of the needs of her family above the needs of her career, always caring for her children more than her employees, always honoring her husband’s position as head of the house more than honoring her high title in her company. My mother was a mother first.
The priesthood power is a power that is fit for the nature of men. It is the power wielded by the Heavenly Father himself and His son, our Savior, Jesus Christ. Arguing against the holder of that priesthood is arguing against the divine roles our Father in Heaven created for us. How can we, imperfect, un-knowning beings, seek to understand the ways of a perfect, all knowing God. Women seeking for the priesthood, or even for the responsibilities of the priesthood is like a person seeking for every calling within this church. It simply cannot be done. If I desire to be called as a Sunday school teacher, and a music leader, and a visiting teacher, and a primary leader, and a Relief Society teacher, and a scout adviser, and a Priesthood leader I’m asking for trouble. The work must be spread. Men are just as capable as the women and it is their divine nature to be leaders, to be providers, to be priesthood bearers.
These roles not only apply in the church and the priesthood alone but also in the home where the priesthood should be the guiding factor. Yes. Women are more than capable of protecting for, providing for and leading a home. Yes. Men are more than capable of nurturing, teaching and rearing children. No. These are not our divine roles, and as such the children suffer from the false identity of swapped gender roles. The world seeks to eliminate all the differences between the masculine and the feminine. Understand your gender. It takes a man and a woman to form a whole; the woman to be a mother and the man to honor his Priesthood. One cannot happen without the other. Women cannot have children without the man, and the man cannot receive the highest priesthood ordinance in mortality which is only given to a man and a woman together. We cannot fulfill our divine roles without the other. And we cannot achieve true joy in this life without fulfilling those divine roles.
Spencer W. Kimball has said: “Our Father made men and women dependent on each other for the full flowering of their potential.” And Boyd K. Pack has added. “In the home and in the Church, sisters should be esteemed for their very nature. Be careful lest you unknowingly foster influences and activities which tend to erase the masculine and feminine differences nature has established. Whatever disturbs or weakens or tends to erase the differences erodes the family and reduces the probability of happiness for all concerned.” “By competing in this world of men women, of necessity, become aggressive and competitive. Thus their godly attributes are diminished and they acquire a quality of sameness with man.” Sisters, this is not our divine nature. This is not our divine potential. This competitiveness we have in the work force, this competitiveness we have in the church is the work of the Devil who seeks to destroy our divine role in the home as a mother and a caregiver. The role of women is to nurture, uplift, and serve.
For a mother to work is not a sin, far from it. For a mother to have a career is not a sin. For a mother to be ambitious is not a sin either. But, for a woman to give up her divine role as a mother and neglect her family to enter into the competitive world of men is a sin against her family and her divine nature. Women’s role is essential and needed in the home. “When you observe kind and gentle mothers in action, you see women of great strength. Their families can feel a spirit of love and respect and safety when they are near her as she seeks the companionship of the Holy Ghost and the guidance of His Spirit. They are blessed by her wisdom and good judgment. The husbands and children, whose lives they bless, will contribute to the stability of societies all over this world.”
One of my favorite quotes is by Margrete D. Nadauld and it says: “Women of God can never be like women of the world. The world has enough women who are tough; we need women who are tender. There are enough women who are coarse; we need women who are kind. There are enough women who are rude; we need women who are refined. We have enough women of fame and fortune; we need more women of faith. We have enough greed; we need more goodness. We have enough vanity; we need more virtue. We have enough popularity; we need more purity.”
Women. Honor the priesthood of the men in your life. Honor that our Heavenly Father and Savior are also men who hold the priesthood and that then men in our lives are divinely meant to have this great power and authority. Honor our Heavenly mother, who nurtures her children. Desire to become like her. Honor the great gift you have as mothers and do not let Satan corrupt that ideal by telling you it is not enough to simple be a mother in this world. To be a mother is the most rewarding achievement of mankind, not only on this earth but also in the life to come. Though there be multiple kingdoms, and though there be multiple realms in the highest kingdom. Only those who achieve the highest degree of glory in the highest kingdom of God have the potential to continue and rear children in the hereafter. This should show the value God places on parenthood. You can work for eternity no matter what realm or kingdom you have earned, but you can only have children if you earn the right to.